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Poem: No more fear

  Written by: Nayab Pareshy.blogspot.com Believe in yourself: O fear! you made me run away from those who loved me anyway. O fear! you pushed me down into the vanity blindfolded me from every reality. I thought I wasn't good enough,   O fear! you made my existence so tough. O Fear, now I realize it was all a bluff and you have already played enough. I lost my opportunities and now that I'm sure of my priorities. I believe I'll breakthrough as life always gives the next chance to you. Remember to rise up and it's ok to fall. The people around you, don't define you at all. they only talked about your mistakes, they aren't ready to appreciate you. Be you, for you. Never stop doing anything, just because people don't give you credit Be courageous have an ambitious, Be ready to go beyond every limitation. Building a wall of fear, Will keep you in the dark forever, Keeping you unaware of  What you're capable of. Be the first to express your thoughts. 🙂

Yes, I'm busy

  Written by:  Nayab Blogspot: pareshy.blogspot.com People complaining me, all the time you're busy, you're busY yes I'm busy, busy in finding myself, busy in finding my best version. I'm busy finding best in people and busy in forgetting your bad words. I'm busy in forgetting those harsh words that you use for me, i didn't thought that was you,who'll use heart breaking words for me. I'm busy but not the way most people think. I'm busy calming my fear and finding my courage.  I'm busy listening to kids.I'm busy getting in touch with what is real.  I'm busy growing things and connecting with the natural world. I'm busy in questioning my answers. I'm busy being present in my life.

Faith and courage

 ہمت اور حوصلہ Written by: Nayab Blogspot: Pareshy.blogspot.com زندگی میں ایسے لوگ موجود ہیں جو ہمیں تکلیف دیتے ہیں اور ہمیں تکلیف پہنچاتے ہیں ، لیکن ہمیں معاف کرنا اور بھول جانا اور رنجشیں نہ رکھنا سیکھنا چاہئے۔  زندگی میں غلطیاں ہیں جو ہم سے ہوئ ہیں اور کچھ غلطیاں جو ہم کریں گے ، لیکن ہمیں اپنی غلطیوں سے سبق سیکھنا چاہئے اور ان سے ترقی کرنی چاہئے۔  زندگی میں پچھتاوے بھی ہیں پر ہمیں ان کے ساتھ رہنا پڑے گا ، لیکن ہمیں ماضی کو پیچھے چھوڑنا اور یہ سمجھنا سیکھنا چاہئے کہ یہ ایسی چیز ہے جس کو ہم تبدیل نہیں کرسکتے ہیں۔ ۔ زندگی میں ایسے لوگ موجود ہیں جو ساتھ ہیں اور کچھ جو ہم  سے ہمیشہ کے لئے کھو جائیں گے اور واپس نہیں آئیں گے لیکن ہمیں جانے دینا اور آگے بڑھنا سیکھنا چاہئے۔  زندگی میں رکاوٹیں پیدا ہونے والی ہیں جو مداخلت کا سبب بنیں گی پر رکاوٹیں دیکھ کر رکنا نہیں، ہمیں ان چیلنجوں پر قابو پانا اور مضبوط تر ہونا سیکھنا ہے۔  زندگی میں کچھ خدشات ہیں جو ہمیں اپنی خواہش سے باز رکھے ہوئے ہیں ، لیکن ہمیں اندر سے ہی ہمت کے ساتھ ان کا مقابلہ کرنا سیکھنا ہے۔ خدا ہماری زندگیوں کو اپنے ہاتھوں میں تھ

Pressure of perfection

  Written by Nayab Blogspot: pareshy.blogspot.com میں نے اپنی دوستوں سے پرفیکشن اور اس سے متعلق ان کے تجربات اور کہانیاں پوچھی کہ ان کو پرفیکشن کی وجہ سے کن کن چیزوں اور لوگوں کی کن کن باتوں کا سامنا کرنا پڑتا ہے اور اس کے بعد ، مجھے ان لوگوں کی طرف سے بہت سارے ردعمل موصول ہوئے جنھیں پرفیکشن کے اس دباؤ کا سامنا ۔ کرنا پڑتا ہے۔ یہاں میں کچھ نکات پر روشنی ڈالنا چاہوں گی  پرفیکشن کی  ثقافت خدا نے نہیں انسانوں نے  بنائی  ہے۔ لہذا ، اس معاملے میں سنجیدہ نہ ہوں۔ اور یہ محسوس نہ کریں کہ آپ نامکمل ہیں۔ آپ جو  ہیں  آپ اسے دوسروں سے بہتر جانتے ہیں۔ تو دوسروں سے اپنے آپ کا موازنہ مت کریں۔ ہر ایک  انسان قیمتی ہے۔ کوئی بھی قیمتی چیزوں اور لوگوں کی قدر نہیں کرتا ۔ مختلف ہونے سے مت ڈریں ، ہر ایک جیسا ہونے سے ڈریں ا حیرت کی بات یہ ہے کہ پرفیکشن نے ہمارے ذہنوں پر بہت منفی اثرات ڈال دیے ہیں۔  پیچیدگی پرفیکشن کا ایک بنیادی مسئلہ ہے۔ مزید برآں ، اس تحقیق سے یہ پتہ چلتا ہے کہ خواتین پرفیکشنیزم یعنی کمال پسند نہیں ہیں ، ان پر دباؤ ڈالا جاتا ہے کہ وہ ہر کام میں پرفیکٹ  ہوں۔ کام کرنے میں پرفیکٹ ھوں۔ پڑھائ میں

Stop perfectionism

  Written by Nayab  Blogspot: Pareshy.blogspot.com I decided to explore this important topic with my friends asking about girls' experiences and stories of perfectionism and after that, I receive many responses from people who face this pressure of perfection. Here I would like to highlight a few points. Perfection culture is made by humans, not by GOD. So, don’t be serious about this matter. And not feel that you are imperfect.  You are perfect and you know it better than others. So don’t compare yourself with others. Everyone is valuable. No one devalues valuable things and peoples.  Don’t be afraid of being different, be afraid of being same as everyone else. Surprisingly, the need for perfection puts a lot of burden on our life. People took perfection as being attractive, body shape, weight, hair color, and many more. Complexity is a basic problem of perfection.  Furthermore, the study reveals that women are not perfectionism, they are pressurized to be perfect.  Some women tol

Parenting style

 Written by Nayab Blog.pareshy.blogspot.com Parenting style is a method or style that parents use in their children's rearing. Parenting style define how parents treat their childern and what's their attitude or behaviour towards childern. There are four common types of parenting style. 1.Authoritarian 2.Authoritative 3.Liberal 4.Unconcerned Authoritarian/Autocratic : Authoritarian parents focus on obedience  Punish over discipline, high demanding but not supportive and have little time for their childern. Authoritarian parents want their children to follow rules. They enforce rules but if child asked about the reason behind rules they are not interested and their focus is on obedience. Strict High expectations Give orders Rejecting Controlling Authoritative/Commanding : Authoritative parents create friendly environment. They are highly supportive and highly demanding, create positive relation among childern. They enforce rules. Authoritative parents are reponsive. they invest

Child Behaviour Disorder

Written by Nayab  Blogspot: pareshy.blogspot.com The way in which person act or react is called behaviour. Normally human's external reaction about environment such as thoughts emotions etc also known as behaviour. Here we talked about children behaviour disorder.. Behaviour disorder of childern effect his mental and physical health. Good behaviour of child indicates his good mental health whereas change in behaviour indicates that he's suffering from mental issues. Mental health of childern directly effects on their perceptions,learning and social development. • Internal behaviour problems: Childern behaviour problems that are affected from internal such as sadness, anxiety, depression, complaining about things, remarriage or divorce of parents, abuse, death of family member, unreasonable expectations. • External behaviour problems: Behaviour problems that are directed from externally and expressed in actions such as anger,overactive and attention problems.

Little Flowers: Child Labour

Written by Nayab  Blogspot: pareshy.blogspot.com Kids are like flower. Their mind is like a sand. They have pure hearts and pure souls. They have dreams. They are curious about the things. They love life. Playing with toys with small hands. But these things are not for whole life. Anyone can cheat with them. Brain washing of kids are very common. There pure hearts are envy on little things. There perspective of life changes. And they changed. They groom there personalities. Their minds changes.  Children's are like trees they grow at any place and give their services but environment changes their attitude. Child labour refers to any work or activity that deprives children of their childhood. Child labour also affect health of children's. Everyone has different perspectives of life. Some children's didn't relish their life because of bad circumstances.  Every children have some dreams. But not all dreams are fulfilled it is very bad aspect of life. Child labour is a grea